Why Don’t We Ever Talk About What We Actually Want in Bed?

A deep dive into one of the most consistent findings from our survey of over 1,000 married Christians: couples who can talk openly about sex report dr...

SWM 158 – Solo Masturbation – When You Remove the Other Person From Sex

SWM 157 – Why Sex Gets Derailed Right Before It Starts

SWM 156 – Pornography, Erotica, and AI Companions – When You Replace the Person with a Fantasy

SWM — Sex as Worship: Pornography, Erotica and AI Companions. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Pornography and erotica h...

SWM 155 – Hookup Culture – When You Take Relationship Out of Sex

SWM 155 - Hookup Culture - When You Take Relationship Out of Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
We live in a world th...

SWM 254 – Sex Before Marriage – When You Remove Covenant from Intimacy

SWM 154 - Sex before marriage - when you remove covenant from intimacy. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
In my last epis...

SWM 153 – Sex as an Act of Worship

SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we we...

SWM 152 – AQ – Unsexy nightclothes, husbands who won’t initiate, scent and partner selection and more

June - August 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode,...

SWM 151 – AQ – Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling Passion

SWM 150 – Control, sex and marriage

SWM 150 - Control, sex and marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Last month, I watched a great video by Gary Thomas...

SWM 149 – My daughter’s speech – Transgenderism is a lie

SWM 148 – 14 red flags your marriage is drifting towards divorce, affairs or lifelong unhappiness

SWM 148 - 14 red flags your marriage is drifting towards divorce, affairs or lifelong unhappiness. Check out the blog post here for more details and l...

SWM 147 – How do you know if you’re sexually compatible

SWM 147 - How do you know if you're sexually compatible? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
The most common argument I hea...

SWM 146 – Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage – Shifting from Rules to Relationship

SWM 146 - Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage - Shifting from Rules to Relationship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

SWM 145 – AQ – Handjobs, sex on a full stomach, routines, sex tapes and more

Oct, Nov, Dec 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode...

SWM 144 – Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it

SWM 144 - Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
O...

SWM 143 – Redefining sex – How to have a thriving sex life despite sexual dysfunction

SWM 142 – AQ – September 2024 – Exhibitionism, no sex in 4 months, rough sex and more

August 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we ar...

SWM 141 – AQ August 2024 – Transactional sex, no sex due to birth, lube recommendations and more

Agust 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are...

SWM 140 – AQ – July 2024 – A wife can’t decide if she loves him, someone calls me a Pharisee, positions, outdoor sex and more

July 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are...

SWM 139 – Why won’t my spouse do x – I would do it for them

SWM 139 - Why won't my spouse do x? I would do it for them. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Recently, I’ve noticed a q...

BDSM Survey Results

SWM 138 - BDSM Survey Results. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
During July and a bit of August, we ran a survey about p...

SWM 137 – Why we don’t spank our children

SWM 137 - Why we don't spank our children. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on...

SWM 136 – AQ – Wife is mean to kids, another can’t decide if she loves him, and careful who you let teach

June 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are...

SWM 135 – It’s good to try new things

SWM 135 - It's good to try new things. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Most kids, when growing up, enter a picky stage...

SWM 134 – AQ – Piercings, how not to start a fight, nude photos, nude beaches and more

May 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are t...

SWM 133 – Loving your spouse where they are

SWM 133 - Loving your spouse where they are. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
I often give beginner homework to my coach...

SWM 132 – Breast implants and body image issues

SWM 132 - Breast implants and body image issues. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
This episode I'm answer a question I r...

SWM 131 – Tips to fight more effectively

SWM 131 - Tips to fight more effectively in your marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Last week, I shared a list o...

SWM 130 – Building resiliency in marriage

SWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more

April 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are...

SWM 128 – Relationships require recalibration

SWM 128 - Marriages require recalibration. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
There’s an old quip about how men get marrie...

SWM 127 – AQ – Not interested in sex, are men infatuated with ejaculate and many more questions

March 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this episode, we are...

SWM 126 – Unspoken Nuances of Understanding

SWM 126 - Unspoken nuances of understanding. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Marriage is a cosmic tapestry, a constella...

SWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex”

SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as...

SWM 124 – My daughter’s speech – A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism

SWM 124 - My daughter's speech - A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Toda...

SWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs

January and February 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
In this...

SWM 122 – How to make your spouse more attractive to you

SWM 122 - How to make your spouse more attractive to you. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
If you look online, you can f...

SWM 121 – Why marriage should be hard work

SWM 121 - Why marriage should be hard work. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
I made a post on social media some time ago...

SWM 120 – How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective

SWM 120 - How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
A few years ago...